Stop Playing Games Yo

This isn't directed at anyone in particular, except you the reader.

Sit down in a quiet place and think about your life.

Do you play games?

Are you too old to be playing said games?

Well, when are you going to stop?

Are you having too much fun? Is getting free drinks off whatever poor guy enjoys the curves on that dress you know you wrong for wearing just too easy for you to stop doing?
Is seeing which one of the fellas can pull the most phone numbers (or is it facebook/twitter names now? I don't know what these young boys do) in one night for the hell of it too much wholesome clean fun?

I'm just saying. Look at some of your behaviors. You probably play games. Maybe in relations with the other sex, perhaps with your family or at work. You know you're too old for that right?

Just be honest with people. Not that fake half-fact honest I spoke about two days ago - HONEST.

Don't go over no dude's house, at 1am, like you don't know what's hot in the streets and then act like you have lepracy and if someone gets within two feet of you they'll turn into a pumpkin and now ole boy sitting on the other couch watching some bullshit Lifetime movie when he could've been asleep if you really just wanted to be friends in the first place. Why are you halfway doing it? Are you trying to get something out of him? Is he too nice and generous for you?

Don't use relationships as a basis for getting ass when you know that girl told you she was looking to get married and then act like you got caught up in the moment. Come on son.

Don't disappear on someone and then reappear 8 months later on some "hey buddy" shit when the last time you saw each other it wasn't no damn "friend"ness going down and you know he/she was trying to get at you but you met someone else and didn't have enough respect to tell them. If you seeing someone new, say so. Don't pretend you got busy with work. Don't act like you're sick or dramatically overstate the drama in your life to make yourself appear unavailable. You used to get off at 3pm every day and now all of a sudden you working everynight and no one got promoted? STOP.

I am fully aware that people NEVER do the right then when it comes to other folks.

Too often, we're cowards when it comes to telling someone else the real. Fearing a violent outburst, uncontrollable tears, or maybe even genuinely not wanting to hurt someone. But in my observation, telling someone the facts is always better in the long-run than disappearing/lying/pretending the shit ain't what it is.

Even if you tell someone "look, I'm not feeling you like that" or "hey i'm seeing someone now" - and they get upset, they will eventually get over it. But think about this - it is entirely possible that they were going to find out the hard way (not directly from you) anyway... Mutual friends, facebook, out at a party, at a concert everyone in town goes to. Which one do you think it will be easier for them to move on from or FORGIVE you for? Which one do you think benefits you more when things with your new beau doesn't work out? Don't get caught up in how much someone does for you / how cute they are / how phat her ass is that you lose sight of the concept of MUTUAL RESPECT. Be honest about your intentions. By informing that person of the change in situation directly and honestly, you have SEPARATED yourself from the masses and once the initial uncomfort settles down, the chances that you can have a friendship with this person or even get them back if need be go up dramatically.


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