Do You Just Like To Complain,.. or Are You Ready?

A lot of people are not really ready for what they say they want. Relationships, family, Career, Entrepreneurship, getting money, etc.

They say they want to meet someone, but they haven't taken stock of their internal devices to figure out if they're really ready to be in a healthy relationship. Do you think your daddy issues/trust issues/baggage will magically disappear or you'll find just the man with the exact amount of patience to deal with your bullshit? Silly Rabbit. Admit it to yourself that you need help, if no one else, and head to therapy. It's a good thing.

I'm down with the Urban League Professionals and came up with an idea to have a quality discussion around Black Love...a SOLUTION driven panel discussion. (A discussion I won't even be at because of a job interview. I really want the gig so it's all good...kinda, lol) I've been in the room too many times where people...yes I'm talking about women... start screaming and hollaring about their ex's and what not, while all I can think of is "of course he cheated on you, you're kind of a bitch". Fear not, I didn't say these things outloud. There's "Real Talk" and then there's "real good ways to start a fist fight".

Regardless, you have to really look internally when it comes to the things you want in life.

AM I REALLY READY?

DO I HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THE SACRIFICES NEEDED?

WHAT AM I NOT DOING THAT I AM GOING TO HAVE TO START DOING?

WHAT AM I GOING TO HAVE TO CUT OUT OF MY LIFE TO BE SUCCESSFUL?

Let's skip relationships for a second and go to owning your own business. This is a personal goal for Dr. Hak.

Am I really ready to own my own business? - Probably 50% Yes, 50% No. As far as wanting to - yes. But I feel as if I do not have the correct concept or idea to pursue. I tend to go all-in on certain types of things and I need a business I can go all in on and really focus on. Otherwise I'd just be going through the motions, part of why I don't plan on returning to corporate America. I really don't care about making other people rich. I need a business that I care about the product we put out. As good as a chef as I am, I don't really think food is the answer.

Do I have what it takes to own my own business - Yes, definitely. There are things I am going to have to improve, however. Picking employees is not something I will be able to do without help. I'll need to get help picking good managers/supervisors as well. Let's say I opened a sports bar. Jasiri's been bartending for a minute, so I can at least ask him to help me pick someone if he didn't want to do it. Same thing for a club. My boy James would give me some advice if I wanted to get into it.
The fact that I've even considered these things shows I'm resourceful and think about things in advance. Something good for someone who owns a business.
As far as the sacrifices go, I already mentioned I can be very focused when I am interested in something. I don't think I'd have a problem sacrificing certain things. Time with my kids (future kids, thank you) is not something I'd sacrifice however. So I'd expect to have them at the shop with me a lot.

What am I not doing? - I'm not doing a lot of research, meeting bankers, finding a good accountant, scouting locations, etc. This is because, as I said earlier, I'm not in possession of a concept or idea I'm ready to run with. Those things would change in a hurry.

What will I have to stop doing? - Stay up until 4:14AM blogging when I have to open the shop in a few hours. Wilding. Blogging (unless its $ related). Partying. Traveling all the time, etc.


OK that's my inventory for opening a biz. If you're tired of complaining about the things you DON'T have in life and want to really start getting at them, start your own inventory and see what you come up with. Then start. START. Believe in yourself while accepting criticism and thanking haters for their input. You know who your haters are, so don't let them hold you back from what you really want. Don't let your bitter ass homegirl with the bad attitude keep you from going out with that nice guy you just met. Don't let the cat with two kids and no cash tell you about his washed up dreams and how you should just get a job if you don't want to have "just" a job. If you want kids, look at your life and think about what you'll have to change to fit them into your life (hint: stay out the clubs for a while).

That's it for now. Enjoy your day!

-Dr Hak