The art of apology - an ancient craft lost to the American population in the mid 1990's, formerly used to express regret, now used only to pretend to be sorry about something during press conferences forced upon one by their bosses and/or sponsors.
Sometimes we all make mistakes, and one of the hardest things to do when one makes a mistake is to issue a sincere apology. In keeping it real, I refuse to accept any apology that comes my way that is not clearly genuine. I also do not issue apologies by virtue of one being requested - I must feel from within that a mistake was made on my part to issue an apology. This isn't common, but its the way I roll.
Phony, weak, and insincere apologies only make the given situation worse. Lets say I were to be wrong about something, and "apologized" to the harmed party just because. Not only does this person know the apology is fake, it could perhaps insult their intelligence. The issue will be no more resolved, and a whole new layer of the fight will be added if the "that apology wasn't even real" statement is made. Nothing is accomplished, and now everyone is mad.
Apologizing has more benefits than to the immediate situation - it shows maturity, thoughtfulness, and self reflection. It also requires those same traits, which may explain why TRUE apologies are so hard to come by, and so rare - even in the public arena. You know what I mean - let's use celebrity apologies. You can feel the difference between someone who issues a statement expressing some level of regret that the situation occurred and someone who really feels like they fucked up and don't want to let it happen again. It's not even hard to see the differences.
Away from the public arena, your personal life is more important. How do you feel when you receive a half-hearted apology when someone does you dirty? Or no apology at all, ninjas just keep it moving like nothing is wrong. It's a pretty crummy feeling, huh? Well, think about your trespasses...
Do you owe anyone an apology? Chances are you do. Don't be stubborn about it...keep it REAL
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