I Guess I'm Going to Have to Keep Repeating This

Ladies, ladies, ladies

I'm going to keep saying this until it sinks in.

Your attitudes are really really fucked up - REAL TALK.

A man is not going to be attracted to you because you have a bunch of degrees and a good job and a house - so stop associating the attainment of those things with "well now I should have a good man".

Men are very simple when it comes to women.

We want someone we get along with, who we find physically attractive. That's all.

If you have something to say about where we take you to dinner - problem. If you wanted something specific you should've said so.

If you feel like we should be spending exhorbent amounts of money on you because that somehow reflects some deeper level of whatever - WRONG. Men spend money on women because/if they CAN. A broke dude who spends his last dollar to do something for you probably is really into you, but no less or more than a broke dude who keeps that last dollar for his bills. One is a trick, one isn't.

Men who have a lot of cash to blow do stuff because it gets them the draws. Not because they think you are the one. Read that a few times so it sinks in.

If a man wants to be with you, his actions will show it, but it has nothing to do with how much cash he spends on you or anything like that...

I mean really, aren't you tired of being single? Don't you want to know what's REALLY on the minds of the brothers and what we are looking for? Well dammit, stop talking and start listening.

And I'm not talking about the listening where you wait to hear something you want to hear. I'm talking about shutting up and listening.

If a man isn't calling you consistently he's not that into you.

If a man doesn't tell you he loves you he does not.

If a man says he wants to be with you but his actions are flaky - he's got other options and he's telling you what you want to hear.

Oh yeah, that's another thing. I'm tired of all these chicks talking bout men are confusing. NO WE'RE REALLY NOT.

It comes down to this. If a man isn't doing what you think he should be, there are two options. 1. He's not doing it because he doesn't care enough. 2. Your expectations are all fucked up. And I mean ALLLLLLL fucked up.


The next woman I hear say something along the lines of "i got all my degrees and a job and these brothers are intimidated by me" is getting shot. (Not literally)


You might not be that cute.

Pause.


You want to date tall pretty boys but they keep playing you... well guess what - they're out of your league. Sorry.

Date a regular looking dude who shows some interest in you. Oh you're not attracted to him "like that". Well he's probably leave you for Stacey Dash or his tight ass ex girlfriend if given the chance too, so now you have something in common. Congratulations.



But what I really think I want to say today, is that your attitudes (and yeah this is going racial. Black women to black men) are absolutely - fucking - ridiculous.

You think all black men are out to play the field and you'll go on national tv and say as much, completely ignoring the fact that you yourself just said twenty dumb things that clearly show why you are single. You only date men who make more money than you (dumb) you only date guys of a certain height (dumb) you feel like a man should sweep you off your feet... my ninja what sweeping are you doing?

Do you have the Princess syndrome? Do you think a relationship is all about you? You think he's supposed to approach you, court you, spit game to you, take you out, and do all this stuff to get your attention, then he finally gets you and its more of the same? Pay for this pay for that. Get my hair done take me out buy me dinner. WHAT are you doing for him during all of this? Who is you? Are you a statue? Is he just supposed to do all this because you're cute?

Oh that's right, you don't want to be judged for your looks..

This is never going to stop...

But maybe for you individually, you can save yourself.

Look at yourself, look at how you treat men. What you expect from them... are you a bitch? Real talk - are you a bitch?

Question number two - do you do too much for ain't shit dudes? Are you so pressed to not be alone that you go way over the top for men who don't deserve it?

If the answer is yes to both of those, God Help you. If its just one, you can be SAVED.

Men like women who have their own minds. The money, job, education etc... those things are cool, and I don't even think all men articulate this correctly - a guy will tell you he wants a woman who has those things, but its really more of an indicator of good stock for his children. There are other ways to indicate that you have good genes other than being a PhD with a great job. Because if you're a jerk, or have a sense of entitlement or superiority - he's moving on.

And let me address one more thing during this ramble - that particular guy, you know the Dream McNugget or whatever his name was on that show - that guy - the tall one, with the education, the money, the six-pack, the nice car, the pearly white teeth and fly wardrobe - he doesn't fucking want you. This is the real world.

80/20 rule applies. You should probably aim for someone who has 80% of your WANTS and all of your NEEDS. But you really need to make sure those two lists are appropriate. Height is not a NEED its a WANT. Ambition and all that, you can put that in NEED. Totally different thing. Who wants to date a couch-ridden XBox 24-7 dude except...another dude like that? I get that. But you really need to get your expectations in line. Because you ain't that damn tight yourself otherwise...you'd...already...be...

Happy


Peace